Helping you deal with financial abuse

It can happen to anyone, and it can be invisible. Financial abuse or harm can start with a small breach of trust and build over time, often part of a larger pattern of abusive and controlling behaviour. The impact can affect financial wellbeing long after the relationship is over.

If you or someone you know does not have control over their money because someone is controlling it, we're here to help.

What is financial abuse?

Financial abuse, also called financial harm or economic harm, is when someone manipulates, threatens or pressures you to gain access to your money, property or assets - or stops you from accessing them.

It often happens because of a power imbalance or an abuse of trust. It may not always be illegal, but it causes harm that can last a long time. It is also a common form of abuse of older people.

It could be happening to you, or to someone you care about. It can be hard to spot until the harm is done, and it can be difficult or even impossible to fix on your own.

We understand, it can happen to anyone.

Signs you may be experiencing financial abuse

If you can relate to any of the points below, you could be experiencing financial abuse.

  • No access to money or bank accounts, or needing permission to use your money
  • No ability to make decisions about financial matters which are significant to you
  • No ability to be part of decisions about your shared relationship money
  • Pressure to sign financial documents or to take out a loan, credit card or other debt in your name
  • Having your ID and account logins used without your knowledge for a loan, credit card or other debt in your name
  • Having your bank statements or other financial records taken or read without your knowledge
  • No knowledge of family debts or control over credit history

Protecting yourself from financial abuse

To help protect yourself, if possible:

  • Talk about finances with trusted family and friends

  • Never share your banking password or PIN details

  • Keep track of your finances by checking your transactions regularly to ensure there are no unauthorised transactions

  • Open your own mail

If possible, seek independent advice before:

  • Signing contracts

  • Becoming a guarantor for someone

  • Making major decisions, such as selling your house

  • Appointing someone to act on your behalf by signing a Power of Attorney or giving someone access to your accounts

What we can do to help

Our team will support you to gain control of your money.

Your safety comes first. Whatever we do, your safety is our priority. We'll avoid doing anything that could put you at risk. Everything we talk about will be private and confidential.

If you feel out of control with your money, we can go through your accounts with you. We can show you how much money you have, where it's going and any debts you might have with ASB.

If you're not 100% confident using your smartphone or your computer to do your banking, we can help. You can come in to a branch, or you can watch our step-by-step guides online.

We can open a new bank account for you. Your new account will be separate from any of your existing accounts. Unless someone has access to your online banking using your username and password, they won't be able to see it. We can also help you change your login password.

If it's safe to do so, we can change your online banking passwords and your card PINs so that only you can access your accounts. If someone else has gained access to your accounts, we may be able to remove them.

We can set up a different mailing address for you, for things like new cards and statements. Instead of sending them to your home, we can send them to the address of a friend or family member you trust.

If you're experiencing financial difficulty or have concerns about meeting your repayments, you can speak to one of our Financial Assistance specialists.

With your consent we can refer you to organisations who can provide specialist help and support, or we can provide you with their contact details.

If you're experiencing abuse, there is help available

If you or someone you know is being harmed there are specialist organisations that can help you. When you're in a safe place, call them or visit their website. You could also use a public computer at a local library.

  • Women's Refuge Shielded Site: Click on this icon (bottom right of this page) to access the Women's Refuge crisis line via a live online chat - it will not show in your internet browsing history.

Family and Domestic Violence

Financial Abuse of Older People

Help for older people suffering financial harm, or those who care about them.

Financial mentoring and debt management

  • Good Shepherd
    Support to take back control of unmanageable debt

    0800 466 370

  • MoneyTalks
    Free, confidential budgeting advice, financial mentoring and other community services.

    0800 345 123

Resources you can tap into

If you don't have a lawyer, you can ask Community Law for advice, or one of the specialist organisations listed below.

Read our 'Safe and savvy' guide for helping older people avoid abuse, scams and fraud.

Read our 'Financial Abuse' and 'Elder Abuse' key information sheets in Easy English and additional languages.

Abuse in transactions

Abuse in transactions is a method some people use to abuse someone else by intentionally adding a threatening or abusive message in payment description fields.

The payments are often low-value and may not always outwardly appear abusive. For example, an ex-partner may send unwanted messages such as "I love you" or "I want to come home".

Getting help
If you or someone you know is receiving abusive messages in transactions, our team are here to help. You can email us at paymentsupport@asb.co.nz, give us a call on 0800 803 804 or chat to one of the team at your local branch.  

Returning to financial wellbeing

We're committed to your financial wellbeing. Financial wellbeing is about having a healthy relationship with your money and being in control. It's a journey, and everyone takes a few steps backward along the way. 

We want every New Zealander to achieve financial wellbeing. Our online tools can help you with budgeting, saving, borrowing and more.

Financial wellbeing

The information and tools suggested are intended to provide general information only. It is not financial advice and does not take into consideration your personal needs and financial circumstances. You should consider seeking financial advice before making any decision based on this information.